Soul Searching

Hello lovelies,

So, I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching lately. I mean, what else is one supposed to do when everything in your life completely falls apart, right?

I’ve been analyzing my past, my decisions, fighting feeling like an idiot…

The uncertainty of my whole world right now is enough to make me just want to curl up and stay in bed for the rest of my time on this earth.

Obviously, that isn’t what will happen. That isn’t what I was put here to do and while it’s a valid feeling for this overwhelmed introvert, I refuse to let this situation define me and make me miss out on the life God has mapped out for me.

I have come to the realization that I have been living selfishly.

Yes, selfishly.

My whole life I’ve gone to church, I had a journal that I wrote to my future husband in, I was saving my first kiss for my wedding day, I wanted to be a wife and mother SO BAD. To have home births, homeschool my kids and be a hippy mom, to sit in church with a whole row of children like my mother did.

I remember having other dreams too; I wanted to be an archaeologist, a singer, an actress, a navy seal, I wanted to get a malamute and travel around Alaska hiking, camping and kayaking and just be an adventurer out by myself with my dog.

But I always came back to wanting to be a wife and mom like my own mom. I admired her (and still do) and she is the most amazing, strongest woman I know.

I remember when I was in my teens, there was a visiting pastor from Kenya, he preached about the ministry they were doing there and he had a bunch of hand carved giraffes and other animals from the villages there he was selling to raise some money. I remember how excited I felt when I was asked to help him man his table, I was ecstatic to get to be part of something that was so important and I remember feeling I was called to go help people and be part of some kind of ministry.

But as I got older, all my other dreams kind of fell away because I got ‘boy crazy’. I compromised my standards constantly in search of “the one” and instead of following what God had put in my heart, I wound up twice divorced and a single mom.

What on earth happened?

I could go on for hours talking about where I went wrong, because I can actually think back to the first few times when I didn’t listen to the advice from my parents, people who were put on this earth who have far more life experience than I do and were given an outside perspective into my personal life and had given me sound advice which I in turn rejected and arrogantly thought I knew better only to now be proven wrong.

But, truthfully, dwelling on how stupid I was won’t fix anything it only hinders my progress.

When I think back to the few times I remember feeling called I realize that instead of thinking about it, reading my Bible, praying over the idea, asking people what they thought of it, I kept it to myself. I figured I couldn’t be a missionary because I was a woman, I was going to be a wife and mother and live the same kind of life my mom and other women I knew lived. Not because I was told point blank that this is what I should do, but because it was just what I knew and I figured that was what my life should be. I wasn’t going to be a missionary, I was going to raise a missionary.

I think that is where I went wrong, truthfully. Instead of believing I had heard what my calling was, I just blocked it out because I wanted this beautiful picture of a marriage and children and all of that instead of the possibility of being single and childless and chasing after God with everything within me. Not that that is what my future would have been like had I gone off to be a missionary, but it is one of those possibilities.

I’m not saying that being a wife and mother is bad or that God doesn’t call women to do those thing, but I have this feeling of regret, that I missed the point and that’s why I’m in the mess I’m in now.

Obviously, I do not regret having my son. He is the absolute best thing that has happened to me and I am so incredibly thankful I was chosen to be his mother. Even with as uncertain as life is I know God has a plan and he will never forsake me, no matter how many times I chose what I wanted over asking what he wants from me.

I’m changing that now. Now I am praying, I’m asking, I’m actively seeking God. I will no longer put what I want ahead of what he wants. I may not be able to run off and be a missionary in Africa right this moment, but what I can do is continue praying and reading my Bible. I can learn what it means to spread the Gospel. I can volunteer locally. I can bring my son with me to Church and community events to help people and show him what being a follower of Christ truly means. I know that this is something that I need to do with my life, I need to help others in any way I can. Who says I have to go help people in another country when there are thousands here who need our help? no one. For now, I feel called to help others and that can be done right here, right now.

I’m going through so many changes right now with everything, the only way I can describe it is this: you know how blacksmiths heat up metal and it melts and then they bash it into the shape they need it to be in? yeah, that’s what I feel like. Every day has it’s ups and downs.

But even through all this chaos, I can see God’s hand, I can feel his presence. Even when I’m bawling my eyes out over how unfair life is I can see how blessed I am and as always there is a shining light at the end of that tunnel and one day I will look back on this and think “wow, I don’t know how you did it, but thank you for bringing me through that, Lord.”

And boy, I cannot WAIT for that day

MLM What not to do: Associate Stalking

Hello lovelies,

So, I may be new to the network marketing scene and I certainly do not have everything figured out, so this is mostly just my newbie opinion. But from everything I’ve been learning and observing, I’ve picked up a few things and I’ve been noticing some things that are a major turn off for people when approached by “one of THOSE MLM people..” which, truthfully gives the rest of us a bad name, so here’s a reminder and some basic rules to follow for anyone else who is new to this industry.

Associate Stalkers (for lack of a better term)

You know, the people who look for people in companies that have gone under. I’m not talking about the ones who genuinely are reaching out trying to help, but the ones who say “find ALL the people in this-and-such-company-that-just-went-down and recruit them all”. The people who see other companies failing as a feeding ground full of prospects. The only thing they care about is making their team bigger.

It’s ridiculously classless in my opinion.

For example, I posted a video of me playing a song with my guitar publicly on my Facebook profile and noticed a comment from a woman that read “did you get my message?” I checked my inbox and indeed had not received a message from her, I clicked through her profile only to discover we weren’t friends although we did have some mutual friends, so I clicked the message icon on her profile and there was her message to me asking if I was still with Maëlle. Turns out she was just wanting me to join whatever MLM she is with (she never said). Here is how she failed to “make the sale” to me:

  1. Commented on a public video of mine without saying anything about the content of said video (she didn’t even like it) she only asked if I had received her message. Because, you know, how dare I continue with my regular posting without receiving and responding to her message, right? rude.
  2. Never sent a friends request or showed interest in being friends
  3. Never connected on a personal level—my music video was a perfect opportunity for that.

So here is a simple example of a way she could have connected with me and possibly gained a new team mate, had I been interested.

I post the video. She sees it somehow (possibly through mutual friends). She comments “wow! I love this, you are very talented” (or some other genuine compliment). She messages me. “Hey, I see you were with Maëlle, I’m so sorry to hear what happened. I too am in a MLM company so I can empathize how stressful being out of work would be.”

That would have opened up a dialogue where we could have connected and at least been friends, if not teammates. I have no idea what she has going on, I already have another company I’m working with as well so I may not have been interested, then again, maybe I would have, you never know. But that would have been a much better way to connect rather than the way it played out. I’ll post a screenshot just so you can see what exactly went down:

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As you can see, there’s not much personal connecting or ‘networking’ going on. It made me feel upset, because she didn’t genuinely care about me, she just wanted to see if I was interested in her opportunity. Keep in mind, I don’t know this woman from Eve (and even then, I know more about Eve…) I don’t particularly care that she doesn’t care about me, but her message made me feel like I was cut down to just another prospect, just another random profile she’s been messaging to see if an unfortunate victim of two companies’ lawsuit would be interested in whatever particular brand of ‘extra money’ opportunity she is peddling.

Even though I know this is just what most MLM people do, it has an effect. So think about the people who are approached who don’t have the experience I have with MLM companies. It sets us up as uncaring people involved in some giant scheme to stalk and add as many people to their teams and Facebook groups as possible and then the next person they hear talk about how evil “pyramid schemes” are, they believe and add their own experience with “one of those scammers” to the mix. It’s this endless cycle of misinformation that needs to end.

And, it’s not that there is anything wrong with wanting people to join your team or try your products, obviously. But it’s all about the approach.

At first I was going to leave it to the first response and not worry about saying anything else, but it bugs me that people think this is okay. It gives network marketing a bad name and I think it needs to change. We need to be solving problems in peoples lives not seeing people solely as prospects.

See a need, fill a need.

It’s a basic concept. And her intentions were probably more honorable than what came across, but it’s your approach that will make or break a connection. Sometimes we get so caught up and excited in the opportunity we have that we forget to slow down and make sure we are connecting on a personal level with our prospects.

Be thoughtful and genuine with everything that you do and you will attract the right people to your team and you will start to see the success that you want in your business and your life.

 

Lawsuit?!

Hello lovelies,

Some of you have probably heard that Younique has sued our CEO Chris Welch. I won’t go into details because I don’t know much, there has been some misinformation spreading around lately so here is what we were told:

Company Announcement

Dear Maëlle Mentors,

Since our inception, we have experienced incredible success. In less than a year, we have built a brand we love, grown to more than 7,000 strong in five countries and brought over 20 innovative, high-quality products to market. All of this has provided you, our Mentors – the lifeblood of our business – with a compelling platform to build incredible teams, establish lifelong friendships, and create lasting success. The last 12 months have far exceeded our expectations, and we are so grateful to each of you for helping make it a reality.

Today, however, we are extremely disappointed to report that, due to a legal dispute with Younique, we are required to temporarily suspend direct selling on our platform for up to five months. We believe the claim against Maëlle is baseless, unwarranted and unfair.

We will not let a minor setback like this get in the way of achieving our ultimate objective, and neither should you. The entire Maëlle Team remains deeply committed to the continued success of the business and our Mentors. Over the coming months, you may ask yourself occasionally if staying with Maëlle is the right decision. We sincerely hope that the answer continues to be a resounding yes! You are each an integral part of the Maëlle family and we believe the future is very bright.

Now let’s talk about where we go from here. We’ve learned a lot over the past several months and have heard your feedback. We will use this time to make Maëlle even better than before, including “founder” status and associated incentives for all returning Mentors, a new and improved compensation plan, an exciting event and incentive trip strategy and, of course, even more beautiful products!
We are in the process of transitioning our website into maintenance mode, but we will come back to you soon with approved methods for you to retail product to your customers, outside of direct selling. Below are a few items to note:

  1. This is a company issue which will not legally affect you personally.
  2. All month-end commissions from January will be paid by February 15thas planned. Any overrides on Personal Sales will also be paid by February 15th.
  3. We will communicate regularly to ensure you are updated at all times, but please don’t hesitate to reach out directly or through our support team. We are available to answer will make sure we are available to answer questions and address potential concerns.

From the bottom of our hearts, thank you for your trust, commitment and tireless effort.

#Maëllefamily

Yours,
The Maelle Team

I will keep everyone updated! I’m sorry for the inconvenience, obviously this is not ideal for any of us, but thankfully I have other ‘irons in the fire’ as far as working from home goes and will update everyone on those later!

Until then, thank you all for your support. We stand united and we aren’t going anywhere x

Why you should buy from your friends “Pyramid Scheme” home business

*** ATTENTION click here to see the recent update on Maëlle***

Wait, what? you’re actually telling us to BUY from one of those MLM’s? those, Pyramid Schemes?! why would you do that???

First off, let’s review what a Pyramid Scheme actually is for a moment.

A quick google search shows this: “A pyramid scheme is a business model that recruits members via a promise of payments or services for enrolling others into the scheme, rather than supplying investments or sale of products or services.” (via Wikipedia)

But let’s not stop there, Investopia says: “A pyramid scheme is an illegal investment scam based on a hierarchical setup. New recruits make up the base of the pyramid and provide the funding, or so-called returns, the earlier investors/recruits above them receive. A pyramid scheme does not involve the selling of products. Rather, it relies on the constant inflow of money from additional investors that works its way to the top of the pyramid.”

So, basically a Pyramid Scheme is 1) Illegal and 2) has no actual product

So, what is an MLM?

An MLM or Multilevel Marketing Business (Direct Sales, Network Marketing…) is defined by the Better Business Bureau as “a system of retailing in which consumer products are sold by independent salespeople (distributors). Earnings in MLM are based on effort and ability to sell consumer products supplied to the distributor by the company. A MLM company will also encourage distributors to build their own sales force by recruiting, motivating, supplying and training others to sell products, earning a percentage of the sales from the sales force.”

So, basically, a company will come up with a product and instead of selling it to a retailer (like Walmart or any other big store) to turn around and sell to customers they use individual sales reps (usually each company has their own title, like Independent Distributor, or Consultant etc..). Using this strategy the company not only saves money by not having to rent space in a store, but they also provide work-at-home jobs for people everywhere. We sign up, use the products, advertise the company and the opportunity and we get paid a percentage of sales. If we recruit people and build a team we get paid a percentage of their sales (a much smaller percentage than personal sales, but depending on team size it can become a significant residual income) and there are usually team bonuses and other incentives to build a team.

At this point usually people start thinking “Wait, if you make money off of other people signing up, then it’s a pyramid scheme!”

Nope. I do NOT make commission off of anyone purchasing a starter kit and starting their Maëlle business. When my downline makes a SALE, I get a tiny percentage of that sale. Here is the compensation plan from my Maëlle business so you can see what I’m talking about:

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Each companies compensation plan looks s bit different, but generally they are pretty similar to this. You should always be sure to look at the compensation plan before joining a company. Here are a few things to be sure to look at when contemplating signing up with a MLM’s company:

(Source: The Better Business Bureau)

  • Promises of high earnings, especially with little effort, time or serious commitment.
  • Requirement to purchase a large amount of inventory to start, with no written guarantee that unsold products will be bought back for a certain percentage of the original price.

  • Request for payment in cash, via wire transfer, or money order for initial investment.

Okay, so this isn’t me just shamelessly trying to get sales or recruits. Honest. I just have noticed that a lot of people pass up the opportunity to support their friend’s businesses because they don’t really understand the difference between a legitimate MLM/DS business and an illegal pyramid scheme.

Think about this, if you go to Walmart, you find what you need and you may have a nice cashier and chat for a few minutes and then leave. Your money goes to the company who in turn pays the cashier but you are mostly supporting this huge corporation, not an individual that you know.

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Regardless of your views on Donald Trump, he is a successful entrepreneur and has some good business advice.

When you shop from your friend who is a stay at home mom trying to earn some extra money selling candles, supplements, Tupperware, makeup or whatever-else-there-is-out-there. You are supporting not only a friend, someone you know personally, but you are also helping a family pay for groceries, rent or their car payment. You make a direct impact to someones life. Just like if you go into a locally owned boutique and purchase a handmade sweater, you can make contact (normally) with the artist who put hours of work crafting that sweater and you can appreciate it more.

This is how I view everyone trying to earn money by working for a MLM/DS business. I wish I could afford to buy something from all my friends who have their own businesses, but I can’t at the moment. Someday I will be able to do that though and I look forward to being able to help my friends more than I am financially able to at this moment in time.

MLM’s are NOT a ‘get rich quick’ scheme. If you speak to anyone who has ‘made it’ in MLM’s you’ll learn that it takes hard work, positivity, dedication, and motivation to keep it going and get anywhere with it. If you put the hard work in, you’ll start to see the benefits.

I have a couple businesses, but I have been with Maëlle since pre-launch (August 2016). I made it to Silver the first month after we launched (October 2016), I didn’t rank in November because I didn’t make any sales or put in any orders personally, but I hit Silver again December, January and February, because I worked my butt off posting and interacting. I also signed up four new team mates just in January.

I may not be making a huge paycheck, but I’m see a return on my investment. I now have a team of 15 wonderful ladies all working their businesses and trying to create a laptop lifestyle.

Also, I am viewing MLM’s/DS businesses as a stepping stone towards financial freedom. This is my first step to making enough income to not only support myself and my son but also to create a residual income that I can then turn around and invest into something else. This is only the beginning.

If you dedicate time every day to work on whatever business you have, you will start to see results, and trust me, it’s exciting. Extremely exciting!

So anyway, this is just a friendly reminder that we’re all in this together. If you need some Tupperware consider your friend who is trying to get her business started, if you want a candle consider your friend, etc. Chances are you know at least one person who offers a product or service that you would be interested in trying. There is nothing wrong with being supportive of your friends business, even if you have no intention of signing up to sell for that business. You have still shown support instead of ridiculing them for their choice of profession and trying something out of the box.

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Letting Go

Hello lovelies!

I’ve been trapped in my own brain a lot lately, thinking so much that I feel like my brain may explode.

I have realized that while I’m not necessarily a super organized planner, not knowing my future is really irritating me.

The uncertainty of my life right now is weighing heavily on my spirit and I am trying desperately to let go and trust that God will work everything out according to his purpose.

I’m sorry for being so vague, but I really don’t want to go into details about such personal matters right now. I’ve already had people making assumptions from what I’ve already said. People will think whatever they like I guess and ‘haters gonna hate’. I’ve been accused of posting too much of my personal life online which I find hilarious because while I do share a lot, I certainly do not share everything (to the benefit of my accuser I may add.) There have been many episodes behind the scenes that probably will never be released.

This blog has helped me through so much of my life these past few years. I’m not going to give it up now when I desperately need something stable to cling to.

In general I’m doing fine, when I’m busy I’m great. Joktavious helps me everyday by continuing to be the happy (albeit sometimes obstinate) toddler that he is. Its just the quiet moments, between falling asleep and waking up where my mind starts racing again with all the what ifs and fears.

Surrendering to God and releasing the need to know what is going to happen is such a hard thing. But I know I can do it. I may cry, I may be broken, I may be accused of things I haven’t done, but in the end, I will survive because I know who I am and to whom I belong.

I appreciate all your prayers and support. You are all so amazing, I am excited for certain aspects of my future that I do know, such as growth in my business. Everything going on right now with Maëlle is amazing and I am so thankful to be a part of this amazing company!

New YouTube Channel

Hello lovelies!

I apologize for not having a post for a bit, life has been kinda crazy. I will catch you all up later. But I managed to finish putting together my first makeup video!

I’ve started a new YouTube channel, I’m going to be consistently making videos for; moving away from the blogging to videos, really. I’m excited but also nervous. This year is going to be way different for me in a few ways. Anyway, here is the video, please go subscribe to my channel and check out the video! Give me a thumbs up if you like it

Glammin Mama’s Simple Makeup Look

Requiem for Arbitrary Numbers

Hello lovelies!

I have been contemplating weight-loss a lot since my last post.

I feel like ever since I started losing weight I have become a bit obsessed with what I eat, how much, researching what I should eat and what I shouldn’t eat when it’s really pretty simple: if you eat more veggies and less sugar and processed foods you’ll be healthier.

Healthier is the goal. It’s so easy for me to get caught up in trying to lose weight and not think about what I’m eating. I could eat 1200 calories a day and not be healthy because of where I’m getting those calories. This is why counting calories or carbs has been difficult for me because I wind up eating things I shouldn’t because I’m focused on a number, not the fact that it’s a vegetable as opposed to a brownie (just as an example).

The last few weeks I’ve been doing good with working out more regularly and eating healthier and I feel good. But my weight has only yo-yo’d. I went down to 162lbs from Keto and shot back up with 164lbs within a day.

Today, I was playing a game and Joktavious brought over a photo he found and handed it to me. It was a picture from last year before I started losing weight and I nearly cried. (I get kind of emotional when I look at how far I’ve come.)

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I was 210lbs here. The heaviest and most inactive I’ve ever really been. I got up to 240lbs when I was pregnant with Tavo, the first 30 came off super easy with just breastfeeding and then I maintained 210 for nearly a year until I decided to get serious.

So I’m down nearly 50lbs since January 2016. Those 50lbs came off so easy. My body did not like being that heavy and it was easy to shed that weight. All I did was walk, eat about half as much as I had been (I didn’t track a single calorie) and stopped eating sugar and junk food. More vegetables, more water, etc. The normal healthy stuff everyone says to do. There’s a reason they say that (Hint: IT ACTUALLY WORKS!).

The last few months my body has not cooperated when it comes to losing more weight. I fight my way down to 162 and within the next couple day’s if I just barely eat over my calorie count for the day I go back to 162. My goal of 125 feels impossible.

So I started thinking, why do I want to get to 125? I typed in my height, age and gender into an online calculator one time, years ago and it told me “hey, you’re supposed to be 125”. But why? I’m sure there’s some kind of science behind it, but why do *I* want to be 125? is it because I feel unattractive where I am? well, no, because I know I’m beautiful; my husband, my family, everyone tells me so and I know they love me enough not to lie so that’s not it. My husband still loved me when I was 210lbs, depressed and had a half shaved head, I think he prefers me now, but still he didn’t love me any less then.

So what’s the big hairy deal with 125? why am I focusing on an arbitrary number like that? also, take a look at these two pictures:

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I was the same weight in these pictures, and yet I look smaller on the right! weird right? yeah, that’s why I think this is a bunch of bull(oney).

The last few years I have weighed myself pretty much every day religiously and each time (aside from the few months I was dropping 10lbs a month) I was disappointed. The last few months has been the same story, I weigh myself once in the morning, groan because I either gained a pound or two or maintained and then weigh myself throughout the day so I know if I ate too much, groan again because I know I will gain or at the least maintain the next day. Then repeat.

 

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Every time I look at food I think “if I eat that, I’ll gain weight,” “If I eat that, I won’t lose; I’ll just maintain,” and I’ll avoid it and avoid it until I finally cave and then feel guilty. And I’m not talking an entire cake here, I mean like if I want another slice of beef or more carrots or a handful of almonds.

I am so freaking tired of this guys, it’s SO dumb! because honestly, I’m healthy, I’m eating healthy. I have chocolate occasionally but my meals are mostly homecooked, we eat out once or twice when Jon is home (and not like mcdonalds either, usually oriental food and occasionally Papa Murphy’s pizza) but most everything we eat is homemade, good healthy food. I exercise at least a few times a week if not every day on a good week. I’m the healthiest, smallest and strongest I’ve ever been (including when I was in roller derby) and I am feeling stressed at food. This shouldn’t be how my life works. I shouldn’t be letting this consume me.

So here’s the thing.

I’m ditching my scale.

Well, not completely ditching it, but I’m going to put it off the to side and only weigh myself once a month, maybe twice, we’ll see. I’ll be measuring myself and going off of how my clothes fit in the meantime. If things start to get tight, I’ll know I need to change things up.

This scares the heck outta me, seriously. It’s going to be an intense habit to break. I’m afraid that after a month I’ll gain ten pounds because that’s how I think, if I don’t weigh myself every day I’ll gain weight and it’s not necessarily true, but it’s definitely stressing me out. So, I’m going to stop. I don’t need this stress.

Not that I’m giving up and just going to go on a pig out. I’m going to continue eating healthy, exercising regularly and just relax and enjoy being healthy.

I’m happy with my body honestly. Especially while I’m working out and eating right, I look in the mirror and think “you look strong and beautiful” as opposed to last year when I fought to look in the mirror and not think that I looked ugly. I know I probably sound conceited, but it’s true, I like how I look. I’m a bit squishy in the middle but that’ll tone up in time with working out.

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I’m ridding myself of deadlines, I’m ridding myself of pressure. My body seems pretty happy being in the 160’s. I’m going to feed it right, work it right and hydrate it well and see if it decides to drop to the 150’s or just maintain in the 160’s as I continue to get stronger and leaner.

Stress is not good for anyone, and I know for a fact that my body responds extremely negatively to stress, so maybe this is what’s keeping me from dropping more weight too? regardless, I see noticeable differences in the mirror and can feel it all over when I’m working out and I can rarely see it on the scale so I’m going to take things in a different direction.

I’m working on strength, I’m working on health, I’m working on being happy and stress free and that means the scale is going and my “ideal weight” is tossed out the window. ( #byefelicia! )

 

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So, my message for all you beautiful ladies out there (and you guys too, really) you need to do what YOU want. Look in the mirror, do you like where you are? yes? awesome! keep doing what you do gorgeous cause it’s working! this is all about goals, my personal goal was to be healthy, I set a weight goal without really thinking about it and the last year I’ve been going back and forth wondering what I’ll even look like at 125? I think I’ll look too small. I guess if I’m all muscle it might not be too bad, but I have no idea what I’d look like. Honestly I don’t mind my size, I just want to be more toned. So I’m perfectly fine with my decision to do things different now.

Anyway, thanks for listening to my ramblings. Hopefully this helped some of you out too! x

Failure is my choice

Hello Lovelies!

First off, thank you to all the veterans out there, your sacrifice is appreciated, you guys are amazing and we love you ♡

Those of you who follow me on Instagram and Facebook probably know that I started a Ketogenic Diet experiment for the month of November and possibly through December as well, since I have heard you need to give it a full two months (minimum) to really see a change.

Well, I have only done it a week and I realized that I’m done haha I know, I know, I’m a failure. But allow me to explain myself.

First off, if you haven’t heard of the Ketogenic Diet here you go:

The ketogenic diet (often termed keto) is a very low-carb, high-fat diet that shares many similarities with the Atkins and low-carb diets. It involves drastically reducing carbohydrate intake, and replacing it with fat. The reduction in carbs puts your body into a metabolic state called ketosis. (expert from The Ketogenic Diet 101: A Detailed Beginners Guide)

The idea is basically convert your body from burning carbohydrates to burning fat for fuel. It’s a great idea and many people have reported incredible health benefits that they’ve discovered from going Keto. If you get a chance and are into watching documentaries you should check out FatHead, it explains low carb high fat really well. So your macros on Keto are usually 10% carb 15% protein & 75% fat. I know, it’s sounds outrageous especially if you’re coming from the mindset of fat makes you fat, fat is bad, etc…

I’ve never been a low fat person, I always use butter, coconut oil, eat avocados. The idea of eating fat wasn’t hard for me.

Anyway, I have been thinking about doing this for nearly a year and decided, what the heck, I’ll do it for at least a month and see if that helps break my plateau.

I knew already about the “keto flu”, you can feel kinda sick, dizzy, tired and a bit moody when you are going through the adaptation phase for at least the first week or so. So, I prepared myself mentally for that. I got through the first few days without much hardship, I was just exhausted. Then I had one day where I felt invincible. I walked through the store without wanting a single carb and left with a delicious salad I had put together myself at the salad bar, which coincidentally was the only thing I ate that day because I just wasn’t hungry most of the day. I felt like this was totally doable and sustainable, I felt that awesome I can do anything feeling and loved it. The next two days though? hell.

I was hungry for everything the next day, I wanted chocolate and I was a total jerk (with a b). I started my period too, my first after losing the baby. I haven’t been so emotional and moody since last year when I started losing weight and cut sugar out completely. I used to have intense mood swings and get super depressed easily, but I haven’t had those moments for ages until recently. I literally laid in bed and cried for hours and felt like everything was useless, I was worthless. It was bad, guys. I haven’t felt so defeated in forever. And NOTHING had happened! everything with Jon was fine, Tavo has been being a bit tough lately, but even that is normally manageable, it’s just regular toddler stuff so there was no reasoning for it.

I know people who are into Keto will probably say that I should have stuck it out longer, that I was probably just detoxing and that may be true, it’s probably what I should have done, but instead I just decided that I would rather not go through that intense detoxing. Jonathan is only home for two weeks until he leaves again for three this time, I’d rather not spend most of his time home feeling defeated and snappy and just like garbage. Also, caring for a toddler is a lot of work, keeping up with household chores is a lot of work, building a business, blogging is a lot of work, I don’t have time to be laying around or even walking around feeling like I was. I’d just rather not do it.

The other thing I really didn’t like was I realized I was reaching more for meat and cheese to get my fat and protein and less for veggies. It’s hard to balance getting veggies and staying under on your carbs, at least for me, even while counting net carbs because when I thought about having veggies I thought of the carbs and I didn’t want to eat more than I was supposed to, so I didn’t eat as many veggies. Then I would wind up going over on my protein and then over on my fat trying to compensate for it and then I was like 400 calories over what I was supposed to be eating in a day anyway because fat is a LOT of calories. Sigh.

On top of all of that, I had researched more and everything I was reading was saying that if you’re trying to just lose weight, don’t do Keto, Keto is more of a lifestyle that people do for health reasons, they don’t really like when people do it just for weight-loss.

The whole idea still kind of intrigues me, science wise. I understand there are benefits and if it’s what someone wants to do, go for it. But I miss having fruit, I know it’s sugar, but it’s a natural sugar. I had a mango for the first time in forever the other morning, I love mango’s, always have, but this time it was like I had never had one and it was AMAZING. I rarely get them, but I was so satisfied after that. I’ll gladly take a mango over a chocolate bar any day.

So, I’m going back to basics, going back to what I was doing when I first began this weightloss journey. Instead of doing any set diet, I’m going to continue tracking my macros and make sure I’m staying under my calorie count but eat a varied diet of veggies, fruit, healthy fat and proteins, but mostly veggies. Not caring about carbs much anymore. Still trying to stay away from sugar and carbs from bread and such, but I feel like this works, this is what helped me lose 50lbs; just avoid bread and sugar, walk everyday and eat veggies and drink water.

So there it is, my whole reasoning for ditching the Keto experiment early.
As I said, I’m not necessarily against it, but I definitely don’t feel like it’s for me. I feel like it over complicates things. But that’s just me.

Maëlle Products!

Hello lovelies!

I’m so excited! I received my Maëlle starter kit (and extras that I ordered as well)! Here is my Facebook Live video I took of un-boxing the products. Sorry it’s mirrored!

Facebook Live video

Here are some pictures as well:

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These next pictures there is no filter, no editing, no camera effects, just natural lighting through a window.

This shows a full Maëlle face look. I attempted a light contouring. I have no idea what I’m doing when it comes to contour so I was just playing around and it was fun! I don’t think it looks too bad considering I know nothing about how to do it.
I used:
• Red carpet strobing & contouring kit
• Above and Beyond Mascara
• Dawn to Dusk Eyeshadow palette
• Eyebrow stylist kit

No other products were used! Just Maëlle, cruelty free, European cosmetics.

These products feel so great, they are light, I didn’t even remember I was wearing makeup most of the time, which surprised me because whenever I have worn mascara my eyelids feel heavier, this was so different, at least to me. I love it, definitely a worth while investment.

If you’re interested in hearing more about this company click here!

If you’re interested in purchasing makeup, click here!

Sorry for the short post today. I was just so excited and wanted to share the makeup fun with you all!

5 Simple Ways to Grow Your Instagram Following

Hello lovelies!
Today I’d like to talk about some good ways to grow your Instagram following.
I wish I had used a tracking app earlier in my Instagram journey so I had more accurate data but unfortunately I didn’t. I had taken some screen shots, but I’ve lost those as they were on my old phone and I haven’t been able to retrieve any of the data from it yet.

But I think that I was at 200+ at the beginning of this year. I didn’t start focusing on gaining followers til around July or so I think. Last month (September) I was at around 700 followers and as of right now as I’m writing this, I am at 1000.

(Using these methods, I went from 919 to 1000 in 6 days)

I normally never cared about followers, but that was before I was working an online business and not really working at promoting my blog too much. Now I like to see the ways I can use social media to reach as many people as I can possibly find who are interested in what I do and building and growing together.

In any case, here are 5 of the ways I have used to grow my Instagram following, I’m still working at it, I don’t have a huge following, but it’s a lot for me and these methods are paying off.

 

  1. Interaction
    This is probably one of the most important tips for growing a following anywhere really. Liking people’s pictures is great but people really respond better when you like and comment about what you liked in the photo or caption. This is something I’m still working at because I get busy and my old way of Instagramming was more just scrolling through liking everything without really interacting. I’d laugh when it was funny or “awww” when it was adorable, but not say anything in the comments. I’m trying to do more of that now because I really do care about people and don’t want to just be an observer, I want to interact and connect with others. For some this may come easier, but for me I feel like I pulled my introverted side into social media with me in the way that I’m kind of quiet on other peoples posts, this an area that I’m working at growing in.
  2. Similar Interests
    One thing I realized was a lot of the people I was following had nothing to do with building a business, entrepreneurship or even blogging or makeup. A lot were random pages full of awesome dreadlock pictures, birth photography, nature photography etc. All good stuff but not exactly what I’m looking for when it comes to connecting with individuals. So I knew I wanted to connect with other Entrepreneurs/Mompreneurs, so I went to Robert Kiyosaki’s Instagram page and looked through the people commenting and following him and chose a few that I found who were interesting individuals doing some amazing things with their lives and helping others build businesses. Some followed back, others didn’t, but my whole goal was to fill my Instagram feed with like minded individuals so I can see how other Entrepreneurs are doing things. It’s all super interesting and I like to learn from people who are doing it right now in real life. So that’s one way to get more followers and to connect with others, find a common interest whatever that is and follow those who seem interesting and interact with them, you’ll probably even make some new friends!
  3.  Content
    I have noticed that when I post more positive, inspirational style posts it get’s better interaction and people are more likely to follow me to see more. I have stopped posting lots of selfies (not that selfies are bad, I’m totally pro selfie) because I want my content to be more meaningful, if I do post a selfie there’s a reason, like it’s a makeup look I wanted to show, or a goofy hair picture every now and then. Relevant content is always good. Randomly posting every picture on my camera roll isn’t going to get me very many followers. But it all depends on your niche, I have seen accounts do extremely well with mostly just selfies because they are makeup artists and that’s what their followers are there for. You have to craft content for what you want your account to be. So figure that out and you’ll be on the right track!
  4. Timing
    It is SO weird but timing really is everything when posting on Instagram! and really on most Social Media networks. Buffer is a great tool for this, not only can you schedule posts (you can only schedule reminders for Instagram unfortunately), but it analyzes your profile and comes up with a posting schedule that shows you the prime times to post. It’s awesome! I love it.
  5. Like bots
    I know this way seems like cheating, I don’t think it is, but if you feel that way then don’t use it! This way can be a bit tricky because you don’t want your account liking weird things, but usually these bots have settings where you can black list certain hashtags (and users!). Basically how it works is you sign up with the bot and select the relevant hashtags you want to follow so your account will like stuff (even if your phone is waterlogged like mine was) I have tried Likestagram and Archie, I prefer Archie.

Well, that’s it. Those are the methods I have been using to grow my Instagram following. They have been working for me, slowly but surely. Hopefully they will work for you!

 

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